Is there good and bad flirting? Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts

Is there good and bad flirting? Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts

Love or lustPosted by John Aiken, 6 October 2015: One of the key ingredients to making a good first impression with a potential love interest is flirting. Giving someone the eye, playing with your hair, being cute with how you talk and smiling. It’s fun, exciting and can be a great way to create a spark with someone you like.

There are lots of different options available to you if you’re going to flirt. You may be someone who uses your conversational skills, sense of humour and charm to make an impact. Or you might fall back on your eyes and smile to create a connection. Whatever the case, if you’re good at it, you can significantly increase your chances of getting a first date.

But are there good and bad ways of flirting? And are there particular things you should and shouldn’t do when trying to catch someone’s attention?

The short answer to this is yes. So here’s a list of the top 10 Do’s and Don’t’s when it comes to flirting:


Give eye contact

Use their name

Compliment them



Show off your sense of humour

Be polite

Ask questions

Respect their personal space

Mirror their actions



Use cheesy one-liners

Crack bad jokes

Put them down sarcastically

Swear and use crass language

Talk about sex

Invade their personal space

Check out other single people around you

Talk all about yourself

Keep checking your phone/ watch

Drink too much


Stick to these guidelines and you’ll give yourself every opportunity to make a strong lasting impression on your next love interest. Also keep in mind it should be fun and natural rather than wooden and re-hearsed.


John Aiken

John Aiken, Findsomeone’s dating and relationship expert, as seen on the hit TV 3 show Married At First Sight. He is a best selling author, appears regularly on TV, radio and in magazines, is a clinical psychologist and runs a private practice in Sydney, is a sought after speaker, and offers intensive couples retreats. (